Deep changes take time to make.
When you’re going through hypnotherapy, free or paid, the scariest time is in between your early sessions. The symptoms start innocently enough. You might feel a little more tired than usual. You get a little concerned an hour before your next video view. If you have to delay your next session, those feelings start to intensify. You may start to worry even more. Because you are sure that if you were a good hypnosis subject, you wouldn’t EVER feel that way.
Aww…no. Not at all.
If you were a machine, you wouldn’t ever feel that way. But you are a person with a human’s brain.
Almost everyone feels their old thinking (or even acting) patterns slip back during hypnotherapy. This is why.
Your mind delights in fresh data.
When you first hear a suggestion, it is novel. It is fresh. It is a new memory. As such, it will strongly influence your behavior. Over time, that new instruction will slowly grow fuzzy in your subconscious mind. Its power over you will gradually diminish. That’s why it’s not usually necessary to undergo therapy to remove a disturbing suggestion.
If you’re like most people, when you first hear a therapeutic idea, it makes a small impression in your long term memory. It changes your behavior for a little while. That “little while” usually lasts anywhere from a few hours to 2 weeks. The mark the idea left in your thoughts and actions eventually fades. The fading out process strongly resembles the effect a series of sandstorms would have on a scratch made on a rock. That is what causes your symptoms to return.
Your schedule is incorrect.
You don’t have a hypnotherapy schedule? That’s a problem. You’re just starting out? You MUST listen to your therapist every day, including weekends and holidays. Just like with any other form of help, skipping or delaying sessions before you have firmly adopted your new ideas will result in a return of your symptoms. You cannot do that until you either notice a significant, long term improvement in your ability to function or feel an intense familiarity with said ideas. They need to be repeatedly scratched into the proverbial surface of your subconscious mind in order for you (if you are like 90% of people) to reach that point.
Hypnosis is NOT magic.
Your brain’s basic biology cannot be altered. All a suggestion can do (affiliate link) for you is to nudge your mind into working in ways that closely resemble your deepest desires. No one can wave a wand, say “poof” and make you instantly change forever (with some very rare exceptions). Not even the most famous or wisest hypnotist can transform you from a human into a computer. But finding the best one DOES matter…
Hypnotists are NOT equally intelligent.
Smart doctors help their patients have wonderful outcomes. Wise hypnotists assist their clients in having happy lives. You can get by with a mediocre doctor because most pills work well for average patients. The same CANNOT be said for lackluster therapists. There are no posthypnotic suggestions that are effective in the same way for everyone, beyond basic commands and ideas. Inexperienced hypnotists are not able to expertly read and respond to your desires and reactions to treatment. If you have your needs well met in therapy, you will be much less likely to have your fixes fall apart in between sessions.
Have you felt pangs of relapse and were scared that your hypnotherapy was failing? You’re not alone. I’d enjoy talking with you about it in the comments.
This post is the third in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Return next week to learn why only you can determine when you can stop going to therapy.
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