The Essential Rule For Avoiding Mediocre Hypnotists

April 16, 2014
Don't drown in the hands of a Life Coach!

Don’t drown in the hands of a Life Coach!

I talk a lot here and on YouTube about how important it is to avoid less-than-able hypnotists. It can feel hard to know who has the experience and knowledge and who really doesn’t. Luckily, there is only 1 detail you need to learn about someone to know, for certain, if that person is a master in the art or not.

AVOID the term LIFE COACH.

If you want to be hypnotized, you should avoid life coaches at all costs. They won’t give you what you want. Even after you get honest. This is because they can’t, no matter how many certifications they have or claim to have.

Life Coaches practice CBT.

This is tragic. Anyone who knows even the very basics about hypnosis (affiliate link) knows that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy doesn’t work very well for many and is painful for all. And yet, some people who claim to be reasonably able hypnotizers insist on practicing it anyway. They say that it is a treatment method that they know will work on anyone (yeah, right.)

Hypnosis is a shortcut for CBT.

The same changes that dieting, food journals and rubber bands around wrists create can all be achieved through hypnosis alone. While it should be more intense than CBT, it is also faster and easier for a client to go through. As long as you find a master of the art with whom to work.

Do you disagree? Have you found a hypnotist who is also a Life Coach who seems legit at both? Are YOU both and would love to have a talk with me on the merits of what you do? Let’s chat in replies.

Learn more about what you should expect out of hypnosis from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.

 

 

 

 


Why Misdirected Posthypnotic Suggestions Can Lead To A House With 3 Walls

April 9, 2014
Remodeling without a beneficial plan isn't good.

Remodeling without a beneficial plan isn’t good.

When you remodel a house without a plan, what do you get?

Three walls on accident?

A bathroom in the attic?

A skylight in your bedroom?

If you actually wanted the bathroom on the first floor, you’re going to either end up with an inconvenience or a lengthy remodel.

Hypnotic subjects (affiliate link) who can’t articulate the exact plans they have for their minds can experience lives that are equally strange.

Your mind has structures.

You are programmed to think in forms. You function best when you can follow patterns. This is a big part of why hypnosis works so well. It puts new instructions in your brain that are designed to be routinely followed.

Plans to fix the frames should be customized.

Only you know the exact problems you have. Only you know the changes that you need to feel in your thought structures. A hypnotist can take the facts you give him and create the exact instructions he thinks your mind needs to hear. BUT, you can’t lie. If you do, you might be unhappily surprised.

Hypnotist as contractor.

A professional can design a plan for your mind. Without truths to work with, said expert will only have circumstantial evidence from which to build your session. This can have as potentially disastrous consequences as asking a builder to draw a plan for a home for you with only your lifestyle preferences as a guide. You might get exactly what you’ve always wanted. You may get a lackluster product. Or you could end up with a pleasant (or not so much) surprise.

This post is the last in a three part series about how to get real for hypnosis. ASK ME about how it should feel and what you might expect from getting honest with a hypnotist in the comments.

Learn more about why hypnosis sessions built around mundane experiences can be amazing from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


Why A Good Pizza Builder Is An Excellent Hypnotic Subject

April 2, 2014
Knowing the details is essential.

Knowing the details is essential.

What kind of pizza do you like?

Do you love veggies and mushrooms?

Do you prefer meaty ones with sausage and pepperoni?

Would you rather order one that has no tomato products?

Do you NEVER know what to order and usually let others do it for you?

Not a good idea. Especially if you plan to engage in one-on-one hypnosis sessions (affiliate link). This is why.

Being picky is important.

You must name what getting better is going to feel like to you. Knowing only that you want to be better isn’t going to get you very far for your money. You should have at least a few small, but definite, goals in mind for what a good life will look like for you.

Knowing what feels good is key.

Your hypnotist might not tell you exactly what you expect to hear. You can assist in the creation of your session by speaking up about what you want to listen to. If you’ve heard a hypnosis video and experienced what does and doesn’t work for you, you are in a position to ask for what feels the best to you. And yes, the way a posthypnotic suggestion feels is the only thing you need to get picky about.

You should test before you buy.

Not sure of what you want? Have no idea about what will feel good to you? Visit the virtual buffet! Once you find a master hypnotist, it is a good idea to listen to all of the Internet movies that person has made at least once. Until you do, a one-on-one session could be about as awesome as a pizza with nothing on it.

This is the second post in a three part series about how to get real for hypnotherapy. Come back next week to learn why you might be remodeled in weird ways if you can’t be honest.

Looking for a sounding board to see what kinds of suggestions you might benefit from? Feel free to chat with me in the comments. I am a client.

Learn more about why hypnosis sessions built around mundane experiences can be amazing from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.

 

 


Why Getting Honest About Your Toes Is Good For Hypnosis

March 26, 2014
Toes can be the first things on your chart.

Toes can be the first things on your chart.

How do you feel about your toes?

Do you like them?

Do you hate them?

Have you ever painted their nails pretty (or vibrant, or subdued) colors?

How often do you keep them covered? Always? Never?

Do you wonder what your feet could possibly have to do with hypnotherapy?

That answer, is everything. If you are ready to be honest about them. And if you find a master hypnotist with whom to work.

Mundane features are easy to talk about.

Did you feel ok about answering the above questions? Not too big of a deal, right? Some potential subjects (affiliate link) have never talked about themselves at length in their lives. And, yet, this is what they must do in order to get better. Often, it’s easier to begin the healing process by talking about objects that feel safe.

Benign details are always related to vital ones.

How you feel about your feet is reflective of how you feel about the rest of your life. The way you take care of your body is directly related to how you care for your belongings and relationships. Clients who can tell truths about their mundane details can begin to be treated for their major issues.

Your feet can be the foundation of your induction.

The best hypnotists on the Internet will take what you are willing to give them and use it to your best advantage. You need to look for an individual who will toss out trance scripts and create a customized one for you. If you are willing to discuss your toes, you have the right to expect an induction built around them.

This post is the first in a three part series about how to get real for hypnotherapy. Come back next week to learn why a precisely worded posthypnotic suggestion makes all the difference.

Learn more about why hypnosis sessions built around mundane experiences can be amazing from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


The Three Yeses That Will Let You See A Hypnotist

March 19, 2014
A Hypnotist Can't Fix The World.

A Hypnotist Can’t Fix The World.

Let you see? Oh yes. Because unless you are absolutely ready, you won’t get much (if anything) out of hypnosis.

You have to be prepared. And not in a good hypnotic subject kind of way. This post assumes that you already have the necessary characteristics. The kind of readiness that will be discussed here has to do with your ability to get real.

Because if you can’t, you’re better off not being hypnotized at all.

These need to be your answers before you have live hypnotherapy sessions with someone.

Yes! I hold the problem.

This is not the loveliest of truths. It is one that must be faced. Unless you admit that you are broken, you have no hope of being fixed. Therapy cannot change the world. It can only change you.

Yes! I know what my problem is.

If all you know is that you are sad, or angry, or lazy, that’s not going to give a trance professional a lot with which to work. You’d be better off watching a well-crafted hypnosis video. The general posthypnotic suggestions you’ll get from it will help you start to feel better. When you’re able to see exactly why you are unhappy, you’ll be able to say…

Yes! I can see the details of my problem.

Posthypnotic suggestions can help you best if you know why you feel or act the way you do. These hints can be very direct instructions to your subconscious mind. The best hypnosis clients (affiliate link) are ones who know exactly what is wrong, but can’t fix it on their own.

The most important one of all: Yes! I am ready to be honest.

People who are ready to become very honest and intimate about their issues are the ones who will make the best subjects. That’s hard. You might feel like it’s impossible. Over the next several weeks, I’m going to give you posts on how to take steps to get there.

Want to know if you are ready to get the most out of a one-on-one session? Chat me up in a reply.

Get more tips on what you should expect of a hypnotist from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


The Vital Secret Most Hypnotists Pray Will Never Get Out

March 12, 2014
Fancy lights can't hide this.

Fancy lights can’t hide this.

I am not naming names in this post. Although maybe I should, so you’ll know exactly who to avoid. But any post like that would ultimately prove to be inadequate, since deceptive hypnotists seem to continually pop up all over the place.

It’s better for me to describe these mediocre individuals to you. You’ll then know how to spot their fatal flaw. These people don’t know anywhere near as much about therapy as they’d like you to believe.

They think relapse is commonplace and something you, as their client, will just have to live with. It’s not. And part of the fault of the relapses they hear about lies with them.

They Are NOT Therapists.

Like really not. The superior ones own up and admit this. The good ones try to be and later force themselves to ask for help. The mediocre ones never bother to mention that fact. This can feel confusing because…

They Offer Therapy.

I often use those two terms interchangeably on this blog. There is a good reason for this. Most showmen (and ladies) have a good grasp of how posthypnotic suggestions work. For an hour. Or two. The superior ones know that one repetition of an idea is not good enough to prevent a relapse. Even this is not sufficient knowledge to call oneself a hypnotherapist.

They Do NOT Know Hypnotherapy.

To a great extent, if you have a willing and wise expert to work with, you can be your own hypnotherapist. It is unrealistic to expect a stage performer to be able to fill that role for you (although some are knowledgeable in that area to varying degrees.) Ultimately, only you will know how many repetitions of an idea you will need. (It should be noted that there are professional hypnotherapists, but even those people cannot know exactly how your mind will process their statements.)

Are you a professional who thinks I’m wrong? Are you a disgruntled client who has listened to a dozen hypnosis videos without receiving any lasting benefits? We should talk in the comments.

This is the final post in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Come back next week to learn how to handle the hardest part of therapy (affiliate link).

Learn more about the difference between a hypnotist and a hypnotherapist from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


When Reality And Magic Crash: Posthypnotic Suggestions

March 5, 2014
Magic is only half of the story.

Magic is only half of the story.

When the hypnosis afterglow wears off, reality can set in. Hard. That is, unless, you got the proper posthypnotic suggestions. Hypnosis can’t do anything for you that you aren’t able to do for yourself. It can make it easier for you to achieve your goals.

Achieve YOUR goals. That can be a little vague. And vague isn’t going to cut it. You need to get specific.

A hypnotist can do the magic (affiliate link) for you. You MUST define what will happen when the smoke clears and the crowd roars. If you can’t do that, you will FAIL. And no one will be able to save you.

The BEST hypnotists aren’t mind readers.

No one can look at you and know precisely what your desires from therapy are. It just can’t be done. The best therapists can get rough ideas about what your needs are based on how you talk and act. Even they won’t know everything about you unless you tell them truths.

You must be honest to stop a relapse.

You do not need to reveal everything about yourself at the same time. But, you won’t have any guarantees of getting better unless you get real. You have to describe your version of a wonderful life in order to be assured of realizing it.

Your brain has incredible power.

Your cranial cells have more ability than you’ve ever been taught that you have. Most people never live as well as they can due to their lack of knowledge about their minds. Most modern doctors and therapists know very little about how to supercharge brains through hypnosis. When you make a concerted, concentrated effort to purposely mold your subconscious mind, you will be amazed at what you can do. Yes really. And if you do it often enough, you won’t relapse.

Except, of course, for when the magic takes over.

There are times when magic takes over. Because no one can guarantee exactly how your brain will interpret a notion. Not even the wisest hypnotist can KNOW precisely what effect his words will have on you. The best anyone can do is make an educated guess. The mysterious magic of your brain can get switched on with a hypnotic finger snap.

This post is the fifth in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Return next week to learn what hypnotists don’t know.

Want to see first hand the brilliant effects that occur when magic and reality collide? Check out Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


When The Best Hypnosis Expert Is You

February 26, 2014
Can't tell how many sessions you'll need.

Can’t tell how many sessions you’ll need.

I need to give it to you straight.

The most common reason why relapses happen is your fault. You the client that is. This is good news! It means that you can almost eliminate any risk you have of your suggestions fading away. And the positive effects associated with them.

You are the hypnotist.

The reason why you have all of this power for healing or for sickness is because you are your own hypnotist. No one else can do it for you. No one can force you to open your mind. No certified hypnotist, no matter how wise or powerful the person is, can make you adopt a new idea. You either choose to be a willing participant or you don’t.

You decide the effects of your suggestions.

You are not a passive vessel. Suggestions are not exact instructions. Each hypnosis subject (affiliate link) will follow a given idea in his own way. Your response to therapy will be different from that of anyone else.

You choose when to stop.

When you end your therapy is up to you. No one can tell you when you’ve had enough repetitions of an idea. Only you can judge how secure and healthy you feel inside. If you quit before you feel good every day, you will cause your symptoms to return.

If you felt uncomfortable a little while after you saw a hypnotist that one time, I’d love to read your story. Please tell it to me as a comment.

This post is the fourth in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Return next week to learn the limitations of posthypnotic suggestions.

The best way to know if you need more therapy is to know how a suggestion should affect you. You can learn more about that from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


The 5 Secret Causes Of Hypnosis Relapses

February 19, 2014
Deep changes take time to make.

Deep changes take time to make.

When you’re going through hypnotherapy, free or paid, the scariest time is in between your early sessions. The symptoms start innocently enough. You might feel a little more tired than usual. You get a little concerned an hour before your next video view. If you have to delay your next session, those feelings start to intensify. You may start to worry even more. Because you are sure that if you were a good hypnosis subject, you wouldn’t EVER feel that way.

Aww…no. Not at all.

If you were a machine, you wouldn’t ever feel that way. But you are a person with a human’s brain.

Almost everyone feels their old thinking (or even acting) patterns slip back during hypnotherapy. This is why.

Your mind delights in fresh data.

When you first hear a suggestion, it is novel. It is fresh. It is a new memory. As such, it will strongly influence your behavior. Over time, that new instruction will slowly grow fuzzy in your subconscious mind. Its power over you will gradually diminish. That’s why it’s not usually necessary to undergo therapy to remove a disturbing suggestion.

Your brain is like a stone.

If you’re like most people, when you first hear a therapeutic idea, it makes a small impression in your long term memory. It changes your behavior for a little while. That “little while” usually lasts anywhere from a few hours to 2 weeks. The mark the idea left in your thoughts and actions eventually fades. The fading out process strongly resembles the effect a series of sandstorms would have on a scratch made on a rock. That is what causes your symptoms to return.

Your schedule is incorrect.

You don’t have a hypnotherapy schedule? That’s a problem. You’re just starting out? You MUST listen to your therapist every day, including weekends and holidays. Just like with any other form of help, skipping or delaying sessions before you have firmly adopted your new ideas will result in a return of your symptoms. You cannot do that until you either notice a significant, long term improvement in your ability to function or feel an intense familiarity with said ideas. They need to be repeatedly scratched into the proverbial surface of your subconscious mind in order for you (if you are like 90% of people) to reach that point.

Hypnosis is NOT magic.

Your brain’s basic biology cannot be altered. All a suggestion can do (affiliate link) for you is to nudge your mind into working in ways that closely resemble your deepest desires. No one can wave a wand, say “poof” and make you instantly change forever (with some very rare exceptions). Not even the most famous or wisest hypnotist can transform you from a human into a computer. But finding the best one DOES matter…

Hypnotists are NOT equally intelligent.

Smart doctors help their patients have wonderful outcomes. Wise hypnotists assist their clients in having happy lives. You can get by with a mediocre doctor because most pills work well for average patients. The same CANNOT be said for lackluster therapists. There are no posthypnotic suggestions that are effective in the same way for everyone, beyond basic commands and ideas. Inexperienced hypnotists are not able to expertly read and respond to your desires and reactions to treatment. If you have your needs well met in therapy, you will be much less likely to have your fixes fall apart in between sessions.

Have you felt pangs of relapse and were scared that your hypnotherapy was failing? You’re not alone. I’d enjoy talking with you about it in the comments.

This post is the third in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Return next week to learn why only you can determine when you can stop going to therapy.

Discover more of the real facts about hypnosis from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


Has Hypnosis Failed You?

February 12, 2014
Relapse doesn't mean you're broken.

Relapse doesn’t mean you’re broken.

Relapse is a phenomena that nearly ALL hypnotic subjects (affiliate link) experience. After an hour, a day or maybe 2 weeks, many people begin to act in ways that go against even the most carefully worded posthypnotic suggestions (proof that they are not all-powerful commands.) Many more individuals eventually start to slip back into their old thought patterns.

This is all very normal. Before you can understand how to fix the problem, it is important for you to see exactly what a relapse is not.

It is NOT a lack of willpower.

You don’t slip because you are weak. You slip because you are a person who is outfitted with a human brain. Even the most dedicated subjects feel their former habits creep back into their lives while they are undergoing therapy.

It is NOT a failure of the method.

For the majority of clients, hypnotherapy works like scratching a line in a stone. It usually takes many sessions to engrave a new idea permanently into the subconscious mind of a person. This is because hypnotherapy is NOT magic but instead works with your natural abilities.

It is NOT the fault of a badly worded suggestion.

It’s important to make the distinction between a life change you want and the words that you hear coming from a video or the mouth of a wise hypnotist. A well worded posthypnotic suggestion can help you make a precise change. You must be honest with your therapist in order to get the exact help you need. If you lie, you might never fully realize your dreams.

Want to know more about why your relapse is not a failure? Ask me your question as a reply.

This post is the second in a 6 part series about relapses and why they happen. Return next week to learn why you feel scared in between therapy sessions.

Discover more of the real facts about hypnosis from Jer Grafsgaard on YouTube.


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